I have had different relationships with women of many ages and from different parts of the country. Because of this, I would like to think that by now, I know what to look for in a woman even though I’m not married. If the woman by your side has these 13 qualities and behaviours, you know you have found the one.
Men love women who are smarter than them: When you are looking for a partner for life, make sure that she is smart. Ideally, she should be smarter than you. The idea is that a smart partner never stops challenging you intellectually, which helps you keep your mental faculties keen forever.
Men love women who are honest: Everyone makes mistakes and bad decisions sometimes. This makes it even important to have someone who can get you back on track and tell you when you are wrong. Studies show that men want to have an honest partner by their side when they look for a long term committed relationship. If you have found a woman like that, never let her go again.
Men like attention too: Act like you to want to be with him; surprise him. Men love surprises, but it seems that these days, men usually only give them to women. By surprises, I mean anything from buying him something he wants to initiating sex. When he least expects it, grab his junk or start performing oral very few things are sexier than when your girlfriend is feeling frisky. Never tell a man that a guy from your past was hotter or that you had a better connection with your ex. Always play to his ego; it’s a win-win.
Men love when women with a positive outlook: Is your girlfriend the type of person who always sees the glass as half full? Could you sometimes even accuse her of naïve optimism? Then you might have found the woman of your dreams. Because look at it this way: Negative people are toxic and bad for our health in the long run.
Men love when women get a little jealous. Just a little jealousy to show you care is a turn-on for guys. Also, defend him always! Not only is it attractive, it’s also crucial for maintaining a close bond. When you have issues or problems, do not tell your friends or family because it’ll tarnish their opinions of him, which ultimately, won’t be ideal for you. It makes your man out to be the bad guy and if he finds out that you aired his dirty laundry, he’ll be uncomfortable around these people later. Women may love to vent, but keep it under control.
Men want 100 percent of a woman: Be open. If you give him 100 percent of yourself, he’s more likely to reciprocate; the better a girl treats me, the better I treat her. Remember, ladies, having a guy bang you is not an accomplishment; having him want to be with you on the other hand, is.
The scientists say that those willing to take the steps and make the sacrifices will have a long and happy marriage.
Men want a lady who laughs at their jokes: Of course we always want someone by our side who actually laughs at our jokes. If you have already found a woman you can laugh with, make sure to take good care of her.
Men want a lady who supports their goals and pursues her own: A strong woman by your side will motivate you and won’t be dependent on you. You don’t need to worry about her and she won’t need your constant validation. A weak person often tends to forget his or her own goals. These people don’t just prioritise the goals of their partners, they tend to co-opt them completely. You need a healthy combination of personal goals and goals you pursue together.
Men want a lady who has a good relationship with her parents: If you want to know what your partner will be like in 30 years, look at their parents… If you want to know how they will treat you in 30 years, look at how they treat their parents now, but this doesn’t mean that her relationship with her parents always needs to be perfect. Understanding your contribution to the relationship with your parents would be important to recognising any tendency to replicate behaviour, positive or negative in an intimate relationship.
Men want a lady who does foolish things with them: Have you found a woman who does not hold it against you if you stayed out too long partying? In most cases because she was at the party with you? Then never let her go again.
Men want a lady who has a life of her own: Having your own space and privacy is even more important for your relationship than a good sex life. This has been shown by a long term study of the University of Michigan. “When individuals have their own friends, their own set of interests, when they are able to define themselves not by their spouse or relationship, that makes them happier and less bored,” Terry Orbuch, author of the study, said in an interview with The Wall Street Journal.
Men want a lady who accepts their flaws: Too many relationships only seem to consist of one partner criticizing the other. Their ugly pants, their bad jokes, their annoying habit of chewing too loudly, you get the picture. If you have found a woman who can just accept you, you should consider yourself lucky. “An optimistic approach will rub off on you and attract you to others who are seeing the world as half full,”
Men want a lady who does not bear grudges: If you found a woman who can forgive others, you will have her by your side for a long time. Study says people who can unconditionally forgive others live longer lives. Forgiveness is the foundation of a healthy relationship. People are not perfect and neither are you. There will be times when you inadvertently do something that hurts your partner. And then you will need her to be able to forgive you.
If you have found a woman who has some or all of these qualities, treat her well and never let her go. Your life will be better for having her.
Source: William Kabutey Dosoo